Self-Harm and Ways to spot it with your loved ones

People who Self-harm most often start as teens or young adults, with the adolescents the rate of self-harm has been tracked to rates as much as 15% to 40$ depending on the study. Many whom do self-harm will typically try and cover it up. There are many forms of self-harm such as; 1. Cutting (upper legs, arms, stomachs, chests, back of legs, or any place that is always covered)

2. Scratching ( may also use other tools to do so such as; Nail filers, nail buffers, excessive rubbing of fabrics, walls, etc.)

3. Burning (ankles, end of heels, tips of fingers, bend of the arms and legs)

4. Cariving words or symbols into skin

5. Hitting or punching oneself ( including banging one's head or another body part against other surfaces)

6. Piercing the skin with sharp objects such as hair pins, nails, safety pins, paper clips, key chains, glass from a broken bottle, pens, pencils, etc.)

7. Pulling Out Hair

8. Picking at existing wounds and interfering with the healing process

9. Popping sores, Water Blisters, Pimples, Moles are also things that one might do as a way of self-harm.

Many people who deal with self harm have their own what they call " Technics" to causing self-harm. It all depends on the person. People who self-harm are usually undergoing a lot of stress or have a lot of things going through their minds and don't want to think of their emotions. Seeing them as a weakness. When it really isn't.

Some reasons for Self-Harm can be anything such as; Coping with stress or negative feelings, Finding a Distraction from their daily struggles, To feel something physical, as a Sense Of Control, Self Punishment, Expressing Emotions, or Induce a "positive feeling state". Those who self harm, often feel like they don't belong.

Sometimes the causes of Self-Harm are a result of being bullied, or even child abuse. Even so simple as them feeling like they are ignored, like what they do doesn't matter, that they don't matter. Everyone wants someone to believe in them no matter who it is. But when even your own family doesn't see anything in you. That sends red flags to yourself about yourself. And that is not how someone to be made to feel. If you are reading this right now. Let me tell you right now. There are millions Yes MILLIONS of people in this world that want you here. Want you happy in this world. We want to see the many success that only you can provide. You are more important than you realize, There is so much more to life than what is at the end of that razor or fire. Growing up I used to self-harm a lot. I would burn my ankles, pick my wounds, pop my pimples, scratch myself until I removed several layers of skin. I felt alone, lost, confused, I felt like there was no way out. It started out with just a jewelry wire, that I had cut and then flicked the sharp ends to my leg, which caused them to bleed on impact.

I am saying that not to encourage anyone of doing this, nor am I looking to give anyone any ideas. I have been through this and know what it's like to want to feel in control of something in your life, anything. I want you, who are reading this right now. To know that you are alone. Also no one can ever help you if you are not honest with someone about what's going on. TALK, to anyone, let someone know whats going on. It helps an can be anyone you want it to be with. Because no one was meant to carry all their burdens alone. But also find acceptance in yourself. Love yourself, Be Yourself. Want Yourself. It may seem far-fetched but once you do. It makes healing from things such as Heartbreaks, daily life struggles. It makes it just a little bit easier to handle. And what helps even more. Is when you have someone you can talk to about anything. Find that person whom you know you can trust more than anyone. Open up to them. You will be surprised that when you finally do open up to someone, just how much they do care, and just how many want to help and be there for you. Don't ever give up and Don't ever stop fighting. We all need hope and faith in our lives. Harming yourself is not the answer and I am begging you to put those blades away, Put that knife down, Put the matches away. Put the harm away. Learn ways to love yourself. Do what you want to do in life and don't worry about what everyone has to say to you. What you do in this world is important so long that it is important to you and only you. Sometimes you have to stand up for something you believe in even if it means standing alone. Everything you have been through only validates how strong you are and will continue to be. Don't be ashamed of your past, or the scars on your body, it does not say who you are. It only tells a story of how you got to where you are right now and will continue to go. You are meant to do so much good in this world and we all want you here to see everything good and pure this life has to offer. You are too Precious, too Wanted, too Loved, too Important to lose. Everyone has something that they have been through that causes them to think if it is worth continuing the life they were given. But you don't give up. You keep fighting because things do get better. It may not seem like it now and it may sound like everything I have said is gibberish. But it will get better, in time. success doesn't happen overnight like some movies or magazines make it seem. Even your biggest Idol has things they go through, problems they struggle with. They are human just like us and feel just the same. Even though their problems don't look like what we go through. They feel pain, they get sad, they get mad. Even they have bad days. But remember its a bad day/moment not a bad life. Nothing in life is easy. If you want to go to that concert you have to work your ass off to get there. If you want that Job promotion you have to work your ass off to get that promotion no one is just going to give it to you on a silver platter. No one in the world has life easy. Poor and Rich alike we are all human and we all go through things others wouldn't dream of going through. But just remember you are not alone and there are people out there who want to help, if you'll let them. Stay safe and hope you all have a wonderful day ~Kyndra~