AntiBullying/ Coping Skills Blog

Here you will be able to find useful ways & tips to cope with Bullying of all forms.

given to you by Alexandra Denman.

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The main to think about is your safety if you're being bullied and that's not just safety from the bullies but safety from yourself, ask yourself do you feel safe? If you don't then it's time to break the silence and talk to someone, anyone, helpline are great if you don't have anyone to talk to but never keep it to yourself it's the worst thing you can possibly do. You should never have to cope with bullying but unfortunately if you're being bullied then it's inevitable that you will have to learn some coping techniques, the first thing I will say and this goes for abuse victims as well is that these feelings that you're feeling right now don't belong to you, they belong to the bully, they are putting all their insecurities and bad feelings that they feel onto you, you don't own these feelings, you don't deserve to feel this way, they do, it's not your burden to bare, they have all this pent up anger and they're pushing it onto you, this is not what you deserve, you deserve to be loved, you deserve to feel happy, and you can't let them take that from you, over everything else, you can do this, you've got this. Which moves me onto coping strategies, okay the first one we've all heard before bit it's true, try to ignore it, like I said it's s reflection of them and their misery not yours, you're better then that and you deserve more, if it's online bullying I can't stress the block button enough, we can't do that in the real world but we can online and it's very satisfying when you block someone who's giving you hate, okay secondly allow yourself some time for you, you need to be able to relax and be calm for a bit, this will help you deal with it in the long run, find some relaxation techniques online or on YouTube and practice them, practice makes perfect and it will help as it will feel like your safe haven, thirdly and most importantly, talk to someone, ask for help, let people help you, you matter and your feelings matter, talk to anyone you feel you can trust even if it's a helpline, make the first step to getting some help, and remember you don't deserve this, you matter. ~ Alexandra Denman ( experienced psychotherapy practitioner)